Recently someone said something to me that upset me. It was not meant to upset me, but I experienced it somewhat like an intrusion, even a violation, although that might be too strong a word. However well intended, it was too personal and crossed a boundary I had not even known was there.
Having heard it, I could not unhear it. For some time afterwards, it roamed around in my psyche, calling my attention to it, distracting me, disturbing me. I questioned my reaction and wondered if I could or should have handled it differently. I did not know how to resolve this in my agitated mind and release it.
And then I received a message so clearly in my spirit as if someone had spoken it aloud.
“It does not touch you.”
And in that moment, the truth of those words permeated my being and immediately all was well. Yes, perhaps my thoughts had been disturbed. Yes, perhaps my emotions had been roiled. But the essence of who I am was unaffected, remaining as it is, always and forever – loved, loving, pure, radiant, perfect.
Since then, the message has stayed with me. Whenever I catch myself reacting with judgment or struggling, it whispers to me, “It does not touch you.”
This does not mean that my heart is not touched with caring or compassion. It means that I need not feel threatened by what anyone says or does. No one has the power to harm what cannot be harmed. Rather than reacting in anger or fear, I am free to respond guided by the inner wisdom of my being.
Do I always exercise that freedom? No, of course not. But since hearing that message, it comes to me more quickly and more often to remind me that the choice is always mine, and mine alone.
Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists. Herein lies the peace of God. ~A Course in Miracles